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Following are several etiquette guidelines for addressing wedding envelopes. These guidelines were adapted from Crane's Blue Book of Stationery, edited by Steven L. Feinberg.

All invited guests, members of the bridal party, parents, adult siblings and the officiant of the ceremony should receive an invitation.
Outer envelopes should be addressed with the guest's full name followed by their complete address (including apartment numbers). Either use their complete middle name or omit it- do not use middle initials.
If using only an outer envelope, try to avoid "and Family" if you are inviting childen. Find out the name of the childen and following the guidelines below. Printing all the names on just the outer envelope could be tricky because of space restrictions. If there are children under 18 living in the house and they will be inviting a guest AND you will be using just an outer envelope, we suggest sending a separate invitation to the children. It is also acceptable to address the outer envelope with the parents names and then write all the names of those invited on the response card.
Street names and states should be written out completely. For example: 5487 5th St. would be written: 5487 Fifth Street.
Abbreviations should not appear, except for Mr., Mrs., Dr., Ms. or Jr/Sr.
The inner envelope always carries the last names only with no address: Mr. and Mrs. Smith OR Miss Smith.
It has become acceptable to include "and Guest" if you would like your guest to invite a friend. You may also address a separate invitation if you know their guest.

Nicknames may be used on the inner envelopes, such as Grandma, Mom and Dad, Aunt Margaret, etc. if you are more comfortable with that.

	Outer Envelope	Inner Envelope
Single Guests
Unmarried female or divorced female who took back maiden name.	Miss Jane Jones or Ms. Jane Jones	Miss Jones and Guest or Ms. Jones and Guest
Divorced female, kept married name (Smith)	Mrs. Jane Smith or Ms. Jane Smith	Mrs. Smith and Guest or Ms. Smith and Guest
Widowed female	Mrs. Jane Smith or Mrs. John Smith	Mrs. Smith and Guest Don't use and Guest if recently widowed
Children
Child under age 18	Do not put on outer envelope. Only list the parents.	Kaitlyn (1 child) Kaitlyn and Johnny (2 + kids) List by age, oldest first
Child age 18 + should have own invitation	Miss Kaitlyn Jones	Miss Jones and Guest
Couples
Unmarried couples who do not live together	Miss Jane Jones the only name on outer should be the person who lives at the address	Miss Jones Mr. White
Unmarried couples who live together	Miss Jane Jones Mr. Edward White	Miss Jones Mr. White
Married Couples - notice the use of "and" to signify marriage in the following	Mr. and Mrs. Edward White	Mr. and Mrs. White or Jane and Ed if you want to be informal
Married Couple - she kept maiden name	Mrs. Jane Jones and Mr. Edward White	Mrs. Jones and Mr. White
Married Couple - she has hyphenated last name	Mrs. Jane Jones-White and Mr. Edward White	Mrs. Jones-White and Mr. White
Married Couple - she has a professional title, he doesn't	Doctor Jane White and Mr. Edward White	Doctor White and Mr. White
Married Couple - both are doctors	Doctor Jane White and Doctor Ed White or The Doctors White	The Doctors White
Married Couple - both are doctors, different lastnames	Doctor Jane Jones and Doctor Ed White	Doctor Jones and Doctor White
Same sex couples - list in alphabetical order by lastname	Mr. Fred Smith Mr. Edward White	Mr. Smith Mr. White
Military
He is a commissioned officer	Colonel and Mrs. Edward White	Colonel and Mrs. White
He is a non-commissioned officer or enlisted man	Mr. and Mrs. Edward White	Mr. and Mrs. White
He is a retired commissioned officer	Colonel and Mrs. Edward White	Mr. and Mrs. White
She is a commissioned officer, he is not	Mr. and Mrs. Edward White or Captain Jane White and Mr. Edward White	Mr. and Mrs. Jones or Captain White and Mr. White
Miscellaneous
Judge	The Honorable and Mrs. Edward White	Judge and Mrs. White
Reverend	Reverend and Mrs. Edward White	Reverend and Mrs. White